Away on Netflix: What Is It Like to Literally Parent From Space?

Hilary: Karen, if you wouldn’t mind sharing the story you told me…You don’t have to, but I find it really fascinating. 

Karen: Yeah, I don’t mind sharing it because there was a lot of emotion with it. After my first space shuttle flight, in 2008, I was really eager to go again. Extremely eager. But Doug and I were trying to have a child when I was assigned to the spacial mission STS-132. I was assigned to the flight and going to do spacewalks…and then I got pregnant. The frustrating part was that my baby was due well before the mission. I had gone to my commander, and we thought I could continue training, have the baby, and then do this mission. We had a plan—we had a backup in case something happened, and I couldn’t continue training. 

And then, I was taken off the flight. It was disappointing. But, like most things, it all worked out fine in the end. Peggy Whitson was the chief of the astronaut office at the time, and as soon as I came off maternity leave she assigned me to a long-duration mission. She took care of me.

Hilary: Didn’t they call it a health crisis or something?

Karen: The official word that went out from NASA was that I was removed from the flight for a temporary medical condition. My son wasn’t quite so temporary. [Laughs]

Glamour: One thing that struck me was watching Emma, a mother, trying to parent from space. Karen, you can actually speak to that unique experience.

Karen: I had to travel a lot for training. It was hard, but I had to learn to give up control. Doug was training when we first had my son Jack—for the first 18 months he was training for a space flight, so he was very busy. I was in control of Jack’s schedule, what he ate, and any activities he did. So when I was training, I would try to micromanage what was happening in Jack’s life. I had to let go of that. By the time I flew in space, I had worked through it. 

The key is to have support and people you trust. My husband was home, but he was working. We had an amazing nanny, Lucy, who we just adored, and my mother-in-law helping. When I was in space, my husband and I had very good communication. I could talk to him on the phone every single day. But for a three year old, it was a little difficult. I made a video for him every single day on my iPad that I sent home. I had 166 videos saying, “Goodnight, I love you.” 

I did prepared myself for something, and I’m glad I did: coming home and him not wanting to come to me as the primary caregiver. And it happened. Jack had spent a lot of time with my mother-in-law. So the first night I was home, he wanted her to put him to bed—not me. Luckily, I prepared myself for that. I told myself, “I haven’t been here. I haven’t been the motherly figure to him for six months.” It only took a few days, and he was back to coming to me. 

Jessica: Now that your son is 10, would it feel harder to go to space?

Karen: I think so. I think it would be a lot harder to go right now than when he was three. I think he was fine with my husband going [a few months ago], but it probably was a little stressful for him. I anticipate it might have been more so if it had been me going this time.

‘Away’ on Netflix: What Is It Like to Actually Parent From Space?

Hilary: Karen, if you wouldn’t mind sharing the story you told me…. You don’t have to, but I find it really fascinating. 

Karen: Yeah, I don’t mind sharing it because there was a lot of emotion with it. After my first space shuttle flight, in 2008, I was really eager to go again. Extremely eager. But Doug and I were trying to have a child when I was assigned to the space mission STS-132. I was assigned to the flight and going to do spacewalks…and then I got pregnant. The frustrating part was that my baby was due well before the mission. I had gone to my commander, and we thought I could continue training, have the baby, and then do this mission. We had a plan—we had a backup in case something happened and I couldn’t continue training. 

And then I was taken off the flight. It was disappointing. But, like most things, it all worked out fine in the end. Peggy Whitson was the chief of the astronaut office at the time, and as soon as I came off maternity leave, she assigned me to a long-duration mission. She took care of me.

Hilary: Didn’t they call it a health crisis or something?

Karen: The official word that went out from NASA was that I was removed from the flight for a temporary medical condition. My son wasn’t quite so temporary. [Laughs.]

Glamour: One thing that struck me was watching Emma, a mother, trying to parent from space. Karen, you can actually speak to that unique experience.

Karen: I had to travel a lot for training. It was hard, but I had to learn to give up control. Doug was training when we first had my son Jack—for the first 18 months he was training for a space flight, so he was very busy. I was in control of Jack’s schedule, what he ate, and any activities he did. So when I was training, I would try to micromanage what was happening in Jack’s life. I had to let go of that. By the time I flew in space, I had worked through it. 

The key is to have support and people you trust. My husband was home, but he was working. We had an amazing nanny, Lucy, who we just adored, and my mother-in-law helping. When I was in space, my husband and I had very good communication. I could talk to him on the phone every single day. But for a three-year-old, it was a little difficult. I made a video for him every single day on my iPad that I sent home. I had 166 videos saying, “Good night, I love you.” 

I did prepare myself for something, and I’m glad I did: coming home and him not wanting to come to me as the primary caregiver. And it happened. Jack had spent a lot of time with my mother-in-law. So the first night I was home, he wanted her to put him to bed—not me. Luckily, I prepared myself for that. I told myself, “I haven’t been here. I haven’t been the motherly figure to him for six months.” It only took a few days, and he was back to coming to me. 

Jessica: Now that your son is 10, would it feel harder to go to space?

Karen: I think so. I think it would be a lot harder to go right now than when he was three. I think he was fine with my husband going [a few months ago], but it probably was a little stressful for him. I anticipate it might have been more so if it had been me going this time.

Marsai Martin’s Guide to Clapping Back With Grace

Also, I always make sure that whatever’s keeping me down I lift it up with something that’s making me happy. Whether that’s listening to some of my favorite music to binge-watching TV shows. With people that bring you down with negativity, you always have to bring it back with positivity. Balance.

What Marsai wants every young Black girl to know about her hair

Our hair is our crown. It’s our temple. It really brings out your personality. I feel like with me, the more I grow up, I like to change my hair based on my mood. It makes me happy. I want other young Black girls like me to know that your hair is your hair. You can do whatever you want with it, and don’t let anyone change that. If you believe that your hair is amazing as it is, do whatever you want with it. Because it’s yours. And hair keeps growing! Whether you want to cut it or do whatever, it’s yours. I want to keep preaching that to people, because that’s what makes you who you are—being comfortable with all of you.

Marsai’s advice for first-time voters and teens who are too young to head to the polls

For me, I still can’t vote, and I try to find ways to spread my platform and raise my voice. If you’re a young Black teen out there who thinks their voice isn’t heard, I believe that God has given you a voice for a reason, and that’s for you to speak your mind and be confident in what you’re saying. Every voice matters, especially during this time when we need a change in the world and people are finally recognizing that.

I feel like we, as young Black girls, should be a part of the change and a part of the shift. For the girls that are just getting into voting, don’t be pressured into choosing something you don’t believe is right for our nation. Really, every person has a platform. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have or any of that. Whether you’re at school, whether you’re in your house talking to your loved ones, whether you’re talking to your peers, everyone has a platform. And everyone needs to use it.

This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

Star Trek Just Cast the First Transgender and Nonbinary Characters in Franchise History

Star Trek is one of the longest-running franchises in Hollywood history with its many films, spinoffs, and TV iterations.

Now, the show is making history by casting its first transgender and nonbinary actors in roles for the upcoming third season of Star Trek: Discovery, which streams on CBS All-Access. “Welcome Blu del Barrio and @ianaIexander to the #StarTrekFamily! They will be playing Adira, Star Trek‘s first nonbinary character, and Gray, Star Trek‘s first transgender character in #StarTrekDiscovery Season 3,” the show’s official Twitter handle tweeted. 

Star Trek has always made a mission of giving visibility to underrepresented communities because it believes in showing people that a future without division on the basis of race, gender, gender identity or sexual orientation is entirely within our reach,” Michelle Paradise, co-showrunner and executive producer, said in a statement, per Insider. 

You may recognize Alexander (who uses he/him and they/them pronouns) from Netflix’s The OA, where they played Buck. “I think being on The OA actually really helped them realize that I can be happy and I can be successful as a trans person and as a queer person,” they told Ellen DeGeneres in 2019. “Being on set for The OA was the first time I heard my mom use my correct name and pronouns, so that made my heart soar and made me realize they can accept this and other people can accept this and I can be just fully accepted for who I am in this environment.”

Del Barrio (who uses they/them pronouns) is more of a newcomer to the Hollywood scene. They spoke with GLAAD about this breakthrough new Star Trek role. “Adira is a wonderfully complex character. Mainly because of this duality they have within them: they’re astonishingly intelligent and yet they’re still a kid,” they said. “They experience their emotions at a heightened level, like most teenagers. That’s what makes them so fun to play. I like to describe them as cerebrally brilliant and emotionally a puppy. Adira is an introvert, but they keep a few people close to the chest, which I definitely resonate with. I don’t want to say too much and get in trouble, but all in all, Adira is a uniquely strange and beautiful character.”

They also spoke about gender diversity and being nonbinary. “It took me a very long time to find a word that could help me understand my gender, and honestly I am still figuring out who I am. This is because we live in a society built around a binary. Everything, and I mean everything, is gendered. It’s either made for men, or made for women,” del Barrio said. “Nonbinary is an umbrella term for any identity that does not neatly fit into that binary…For many nonbinary people, myself included, finding the language to match what you feel can be very difficult. 

They continued, “The way we think and talk about gender has to change. Our societal norms surrounding gender have to change, because nonbinary people deserve to live in a world where they fit.”

Hopefully, representation on shows like Star Trek will help make that a reality. 

Mulan Movie Review: The Live-Action Adaptation Wasn’t What I Expected—But I Still Felt Seen

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After 22 years, Mulan, the classic 1998 Disney animated movie, has finally been remade into an energetic live-action movie. Available to stream on Disney+, this Mulan movie joins the ranks of other successful adaptations including The Lion King, Aladdin, and Beauty and the Beast. Its original release date was set for March of this year but, like everything else in 2020, that was pushed back due to the coronavirus. One silver lining: The delay has possibly worked in the film’s favor, as the slowing trickle of new releases has only stoked our anticipation of fresh content. In short, the comeback of Disney’s only Asian warrior princess is more necessary than ever.

The animated Mulan movie was a revelation for me two decades ago when I was a rebellious Asian American kid. In the story, Mulan impersonates a male soldier to fight in the imperial army in place of her disabled father. Like Mulan, I was sick of being held to the expectations of obedient Asian femininity. I identified with the film so much that I knew the lyrics of every song by heart, while my sister dressed up as her for Halloween. Mulan was our Disney princess.

But parents of young kids, be warned: This new PG-13 adaptation is far from the sanguine animation you watched back then. Friendly sidekicks Mushu and Cri-Kee are gone, and the musical numbers have been cast aside in favor of gritty battle sequences. The reboot is swifter and darker and even features a new foe for Mulan, a witch with a tortured backstory played by Li Gong of Memoirs of a Geisha. The film also has an international all-star Asian cast, much like the strong representation seen in Crazy Rich Asians. Ming-Na Wen, who voiced the animated Mulan, even makes a surprise cameo as an announcer in the imperial court.

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But the heart of the film—the story of a woman rebelling against a traditional society–remains. The movie successfully establishes Mulan’s contrarian spirit right from in the opening sequence, when she jumps off a high building in her village to catch a chicken. Still, it’s hard not to compare this remake to the original, especially when you are, like me, a long-time fan.

One improvement in the live-action version are the rich costumes and set design, the matchmaking scene in particular. The film captures the playful mood of the original through a surreal blur of bright hues, the swirl of fabrics and powders, and the outrageous matchmaker who is hilariously portrayed by Pei-Pei Cheng (Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon). The original’s scene was set to the soaring “Honor To Us All,” but the music was missing here—something that’s felt throughout the film.

As a kid, I loved the emotional score that became the soundtrack to my life. “Reflection,” recorded by Lea Salonga, expressed what I was going through at the time. (“Somehow I cannot hide who I am though I’ve tried / When will my reflection show who I am inside?”) In this version, I kept waiting for a rousing anthem or even a nod to the original songs, but I only heard instrumental whispers. They were missed.

As in the animation, we watch as Mulan, brilliantly played by Yifei Liu, passes herself off as a soldier by binding her breasts, avoiding showers, and proving herself during training to be the best fighter. The dialogue between characters about a woman’s place, ideal femininity, and honor is truly cringe-worthy, especially since I’ve dealt with these values before. While I’m always disgusted by on-screen misogyny, the point of this film is to show how Mulan transcends such circumstances. And through director Niki Caro’s thoughtful filmmaking, the movie adeptly demonstrates how she not only overcomes but slays these sexist expectations.

While I know this is a story about a warrior, I didn’t expect it to be such an action film, especially since the original was done with such levity and humor. While the fight scenes went on for what seemed like a long time in the second half of the movie, the impressive battle move when Mulan causes an avalanche is expertly recreated. In the end, Mulan saves the emperor and the kingdom and returns home to be reunited with her father Zhou, who is beautifully brought to life by legendary Asian American actor Tzi Ma.

Watching the live-action Mulan was like going back in time. I remembered what it was like to be that misunderstood little girl, and I felt all the feels. Overall, the remake is a proud moment—while the movie didn’t exactly hit all of my high expectations, seeing Asian people act out a story of an Asian woman’s resistance was emotional. The casting was skillfully done with respect, which is crucial for a story about people of color produced in Hollywood. It felt like an affirmation for me and every non-traditional Asian American.

In a time when hate crimes against Asians have spiked due to coronavirus accusations, Mulan is a small victory we need. For Mulan purists, the remake might not be what they expected—but as an Asian American rebel, I felt seen.

Minhae Shim Roth is a writer and reporter based in the San Francisco Bay Area.

13 Face Mask Chains for Staying Socially Distant in Style

Face masks are a necessary look, but face mask chains are a next-level vibe. The stylish utility trend is having a moment on Instagram, and it’s easy to see why so many people have gotten behind the accessory. They’re just like sunglasses holders, but for your reusable cotton or silk face masks

Face mask chains clip onto your earloops, dangle effortlessly below your chin, and hover gracefully over your chest like an oversized necklace. Apart from being another pretty piece of jewelry, they help keep your mask on you at all times—while also solving the ear dangle or chin strap situation you may resort to when temporarily pulling your mask off. 

For something that’s become such a large part of our daily life, odds are you’re still getting used to bringing a face covering with you, well, everywhere. And if you’re looking for a simple accessory to make toting your mask easier or want to jazz up your socially-distant look, this trend has plenty going for it. Plus, if and when face masks become a distant memory, you can repurpose them for keeping your sunglasses closeby. 

The variety of face mask chain styles is growing by the day, so whether you’re feeling those pearly accents, dainty daisies, or actual gold chains—we have options. Shop our favorite face mask chains below.

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The & Other Stories Labor Day Sale Has Everything You Need For Fall

There are plenty of sales worth shopping this holiday weekend, but instead of putting your coins toward swimsuits, sunglasses, and summer-centric deals, the & Other Stories Labor Day sale has fall-ready wardrobe staples you can wear for months ahead. Need some light coats? You’re literally covered. How about an oversized blazer? It’s got that too. Thinking about testing the waters (inexpensively) on a dress trend? Hello, puff sleeves. 

& Other Stories’ end-of-season event is filled with key fall outfit essentials that won’t put a major dent in your bank account, and from September 4 to September 7, you can take an extra 20% off the retailer’s already major sale section. Just make sure to use the code EXTRA20 at checkout. 

We’ve fallen down an & Other Stories rabbit hole more than a few times, so we’ve narrowed it down to 11 can’t-miss styles to shop now. Browse them below, then venture into the stacked sale section yourself. 

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The Wash-Day Products Chrissy Got the Coils Swears By for Type 4 Hair

Watching Christal Lewis do her thing on YouTube and Instagram is like taking a master class on wash-and-gos. The Philadelphia-based content creator’s feeds are filled with endless inspiration and tutorials on how to make thick, low porosity, type 4 coils pop. 

“I treat my hair as another self-care routine,” says Lewis, who goes by her channel name Chrissy Got the Coils online. In 2018, Lewis decided to start a YouTube channel after experimenting with different styles and wanted to teach others practical ways to take care of their hair.

“I was always doing hairstyles with added hair, like different designs, tribal braids, twists, box braids, etc., and my friends would ask if I could do their hair,” she says. “I also felt like when I was watching a lot of tutorials, some channels left out a lot of details, and they always talked about irrelevant topics instead of getting to the point.” 

She channeled that frustration into hyper-specific and succinct walk-throughs on everything from how to DIY your own hair masks (she has a ton of different formulas she’s made), how to do your own jumbo knotless box braids, reviews on the best deep conditioners, and so much more. 

But when she’s not experimenting for her 60,000+ followers, here’s the wash-day routine she falls back on time and time again.

Pre-poo

My pre-poo is cost effective and all natural: okra. It’s a very slippery detangler. Okra gel is rich in Vitamins A, C, and B, as well as protein, magnesium, iron, calcium, and folate.

I start with a frozen bag of okra (which you can buy at the grocery store for less than $2) and let it defrost for a few minutes. Then, I combine the okra with some water in a pot and boil it for 20 to 30 minutes. Using a strainer, I strain out the gel from the cooked okra into another bowl. After it cools, I puts the gel in a spray bottle and spray it onto my roots and hair, then detangle in sections with the Felicia Leatherwood Detangler Brush.

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Shampoo

This step is usually the quickest step. I use a moisturizing shampoo, like Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo. If my curls have been loosening and haven’t been holding moisture, I’ll use a clay wash mask in the place of a shampoo. This helps clear my hair pores of any unnecessary built up dirt and oils. My hair is low porosity, meaning my hair pores are normally closed, so they can trap a lot of unnecessary oils and dirt over a period of time. 

43 Fall Nail Art Ideas 2020: Trendy Designs to Try This Autumn

While a deep wine or classic navy will never go out of style, why not try some unexpected fall nail ideas this season? A less conventional approach seems to be the general consensus among both Instagrammers and pro nail artists. As the temperature has been (slightly) cooling, our feeds have been full of nothing but playful takes on French manis, inventive uses of negative space, and metallic accents galore—and, yes, there have even been a few solid (but far from boring) neutrals trending for the traditionalists among us. 

In other words, these aren’t your basic fall nail trends. So, should you feel so inclined to pair all your oversized sweaters with a mani worth skipping gloves for, we rounded up the best fall nail ideas that have taken residence in our beauty editors’ saved tabs.

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Prince Harry Reportedly Had a Relatable Wardrobe Snafu on His Wedding Day

Typically, it’s the bride who has to worry about wardrobe malfunctions on her wedding day, but in the case of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, it was the groom who struggled with his fit.

According to Finding Freedom, the new book that keeps on giving by royal experts Omid Scobie and Carolyn Durand, the Duke of Sussex had a very relatable issue on his big day in May 2018…specifically when he and his new wife were riding in that fairytale-esque carriage. “Lifting her hand to her chest, Meghan had just one word when she saw the huge crowds gathered on the grounds of the castle: ‘Wow!,'” Scobie and Durand wrote, per Hello! 

Wow, indeed. Unfortunately, Prince Harry wasn’t able to take in the picturesque moment with the same level of awe and enthusiasm. Per the book, “Sitting down in the carriage beside his bride, Harry laughed that his trousers were ‘too tight.'”

The face of a man whose pants are too tight. 

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To be honest, for all the hoopla surrounding Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s wedding, the former senior royals don’t seem much for pomp and circumstance. According to another excerpt from Finding Freedom, they celebrated one year of married life by having a quiet lunch with Markle’s mom, who was in town to meet a newborn Archie. 

“On the anniversary of their first year of marriage, Harry and Meghan enjoyed a traditional Sunday lunch with Doria, her last meal before traveling back to L.A.,” Scobie and Durand wrote, per People. “Her five weeks at Frogmore had flown by, but she had to get back to work.”

This past May, Scobie reported for Harper’s Bazaar that Meghan Markle and Prince Harry spent their second anniversary making calls, eating tacos, and drinking margaritas. The couple “enjoyed a low-key celebration, spending part of the day looking back at their 2018 wedding with a number of people over video calls—including some of the vendors who helped bring their Windsor Castle ceremony and receptions to life,” his source claimed. “They all reminisced about what a beautiful and magical day it was.”

You know, minus the pants situation.