What I Wore When I Went Through Menopause

The idea the menopause should stop you from being your fabulous self is a myth. Take Michelle Obama, Gwyneth Paltrow, and Oprah, for example—they’ve all spoken candidly about their experiences with menopause and aging. And they couldn’t be further from the stereotype that entering menopause means entering a chapter of shapeless nightgowns devoid of all personal style. 

With that in mind, we tapped pro-aging influencers who have experienced the hormonal changes and physical manifestations of menopause firsthand. All five women showcase the reality that menopause comes in all ages, shapes, and sizes—and that aging is a beautiful and multi-faceted experience

Below, learn about their unique experiences with menopause, fashion, and the tried-and-true products that make them feel empowered, confident, and sexy.

Alyson Walsh, Founder of That’s Not My Age 

For Alyson Walsh, freelance journalist, author, and founder of That’s Not My Age, menopause has shifted her wardrobe in subtle ways. “I’ve found that anything I can waft around in is a winner,” she says. “I love fluid dresses with lots of movement and always opt for natural, breathable fabrics like cotton, linen, and silk.” 

She’s also grown fond of a good oversized t-shirt and statement earrings. “Once estrogen leaves the building, our metabolic rates slow down, we burn less fat, and we’re more susceptible to weight gain around the middle,” she explains. “As such, I’ve switched from signature grey marl t-shirts to open-necked, oversized pieces from Arket, COS, and Everlane.” She steers clear of oversized necklaces, which can make her feel “clammy and sweaty,” and instead adds personality to her ensemble with statement earrings. “They’re such an easy and inexpensive way to give your outfit a pick-me-up.” 

Despite these sartorial shifts, Walsh remains committed to her personal style. “I practically live in oversized jumpsuits, despite the fact that I have to go to the bathroom more frequently now,” she says. “Menopause or not, style is a personal thing and you have to wear what makes you feel good.” 

Weekend Max Mara Cerchio Dress

$895

Matches Fashion

Oversized Poplin Shirt

Zip-Pocket Coverall Jumpsuit

$148

Madewell

Ettika Rectangle Statement Earrings

$45$31

Nordstrom

Janie Medley, Founder of Medley Style

Soft, breathable fabrics and feminine silhouettes served as fashion blogger Janie Medley’s menopause capsule wardrobe. “Knitwear became my go-to—the material is super breathable and I loved the elastic waist on pants,” she says. “Whether it was a cute knit dress and sandals in the summer, or a knit set in the fall, I always felt on-trend and amazing.” 

17 Best Anti Wrinkle Creams & Serums to Keep Skin Smooth & Ageless

Out of all your everyday skin-care categories, the best wrinkle creams and serums are easiest to judge. Unlike products designed to give results so subtle that you kind of just have to have faith they’re doing something, this category either visibly works or it doesn’t. There are a handful of active ingredients approved by dermatologists for their ability to speed up cellular turnover and plump fine lines, especially with daily use. Retinol, vitamin C, and peptides top the list—but not all are created equal.

To help you find the very best examples, we sorted through hundreds of reviews and ingredients lists to see which bottles live up to their impressive promises. To preface this with a caveat: Topicals won’t give you the instantaneous, dramatic results of injectables, but thanks to the latest delivery systems and active-packed formulations, they can get you closer than ever before. Below, the 17 best wrinkle creams and serums worth every single cent (with the glowing reviews to prove it).

All products featured on Glamour are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.

17 Best Anti-Wrinkle Creams and Serums to Keep Skin Smooth and Ageless

Out of all your everyday skin-care categories, the best wrinkle creams and serums are easiest to judge. Unlike products designed to give results so subtle that you kind of just have to have faith they’re doing something, this category either visibly works or it doesn’t. There are a handful of active ingredients approved by dermatologists for their ability to speed up cellular turnover and plump fine lines, especially with daily use. Retinol, vitamin C, and peptides top the list—but not all are created equal.

To help you find the very best examples, we sorted through hundreds of reviews and ingredients lists to see which bottles live up to their impressive promises. To preface this with a caveat: Topicals won’t give you the instantaneous, dramatic results of injectables, but thanks to the latest delivery systems and active-packed formulations, they can get you closer than ever before. Below, the 17 best wrinkle creams and serums worth every single cent (with the glowing reviews to prove it).

All products featured on Glamour are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.

Why Hailey Bieber Refused to Kiss Justin Bieber in Public for So Long

Hailey Bieber hasn’t always been comfortable in the spotlight that comes with dating (then marrying) an ultra-famous pop star like Justin Bieber

The model opened up about her early PDA insecurities in the October issue of Vogue Italia, which features both Biebers on the cover. “It was difficult for me to understand how to carry on a relationship like this, experienced under the eyes of all,” she said. “But there comes a time when you have to embrace reality and admit who you are.”

She continued, “For a long time I couldn’t do it: I didn’t kiss him in public, I didn’t like the idea of ​​people watching us at certain moments. But I realized that it is a battle that in the long run, instead of protecting you, exhausts you. The fact is, we love each other. And there is really nothing to hide.”

Justin and Hailey Bieber also both discussed whether or not they’re planning to start a family anytime soon. “The strange thing is that I’ve always wanted to have children early, but now that I’m married, I feel less of an urge,” Hailey said. “I am an ambitious girl with many projects. It will happen, but not now.”

“We’re still pretty newly married. I mean, we’ll celebrate two years in September,” Justin added. “We’ve just been enjoying our time together and getting to know each other deeper.”

Justin recently shared a sweet message to his wife on their wedding anniversary. “Hailey Bieber. I am so lucky to be YOUR husband!” he wrote on Instagram. “You teach me so much everyday and make me such a better man! I am committed for the rest of our lives to empower you to be the woman God has called you to be! My heart is to enable you to achieve all of your wildest dreams! I promise to always put you first, to lead with patience and kindness!! Happy anniversary my beautiful sweet girl.”

Kylie Jenner and Stormi Made Halloween Cookies in Matching PJs, and the Video Is Adorable

Kylie Jenner and her daughter, Stormi Webster, are really doing their best to bring highly A+ content to the internet these days. First, there was Stormi’s adorable first day of home school video (in a $12,000 backpack, natch), then the cuddle challenge, and now the pair is making Halloween cookies in matching Snoopy pajamas for Jenner’s YouTube channel. 

Just look at these two! “back with my favorite girl baking halloween cookies 🧡🧡 check out our new youtube vid 🎃✨” Jenner wrote on Instagram, with a sneak peek at their outfits and their handiwork. 

The still photo is cute, but I highly recommend watching the entire YouTube video if you need a palate cleanser from the whirlwind news cycle of doom that seems to be swirling around social media 24/7 these days.  

Stormi is the most enthusiastic little helper ever, and her excitement over everything from mixing together sugar and butter to her mom’s egg-cracking skills is downright infectious. Jenner even calls her the “best hype woman.” Stormi’s sweet voice saying “Thanks, mom” and “I did it!” is almost too much for the heart to handle. Don’t even get me started on the moment where she says, “I need a towel please” so she can clean up a spill. 

Much like every other toddler we know, Stormi gets really pumped about decorating the cookies and went a wee bit overboard on the sprinkles. But if you can’t do that at Halloween, when can you, really? 

We also got some early info about their Halloween costumes. At first Stormi says she’s going to be a pumpkin, but then Kylie Jenner says the family is going as minions, including Stormi’s dad, Travis Scott. Seeing how all out the Kardashian-Jenner family goes with their costumes each year, these are sure to be great—and we’re guessing if Stormi wants a second pumpkin costume, she’ll get that too. 

Watch the full video for yoursel, above, and prepare to feel your heart warm. 

Donald Trump Took Off His Mask After Returning to the White House—And People Have Thoughts

President Donald Trump returned to the White House Monday evening (October 5) after spending a few days at Walter Reed Medical Center being treated for COVID-19. POTUS wore a mask when he departed Marine One and climbed the stairs up to a White House balcony, but once there he removed it. “I feel good,” he said and gave a double thumbs up, per the Associated Press. 

Sean Conley, one of the president’s doctors at Walter Reed, gave a press conference ahead of his release. “Over the past 24 hours, the president’s condition has continued to improve. He’s met or exceeded all standard hospital discharge criteria.” he said. “Although he may not be entirely out of the woods yet, the team and I agree that all our evaluations, and most importantly, his clinical status, support the president’s safe return home, where he will be surrounded by world-class medical care, 24/7.” Conley also said there’s a chance the symptoms could worsen in coming days. “That’s why we all remain cautiously optimistic and on guard, because we are in a bit of uncharted territory when it comes to a patient who received the therapies he has so early in the course,” he said.

Given that the president still has the highly infectious coronavirus, his decision to take off his mask was met with immediate (and warranted) criticism. A number of people noted that while the president has access to “world-class healthcare” and experimental treatments, that’s not the case for everyone else, including the White House staff he’s at risk of exposing. 

Donald Trump‘s opponent in the upcoming election, Joe Biden, took this opportunity to reiterate the importance of wearing a mask. “Wear a mask,” he tweeted, with side-by-side videos of him putting one on as Trump removes his. 

The president previously tweeted, “Don’t be afraid of Covid! Don’t let it dominate your life.” 

More than 200,000 Americans have now died from COVID-19 and the CDC still recommends wearing masks to help prevent the spread of the virus. 

Are You a Woman Who Feels Helpless about the Election? Start Here.

You can make calls to swing states any day, using this tool that requires about 30 seconds of training. You can attend Zoom phone banks literally any day with Indivisible or Swing Left or Mobilize America or by googling the name of any candidate you like. A trainer will walk you through every step, and the other volunteers on the Zoom will make you feel like part of a kind, weird team. 

“Personally, I’m a shy introvert,” says Greenberg. “But I love canvassing. I think that the best advice for any individual person is just: try it once.” She also recommends giving yourself a reward afterwards. (I always give myself a giant latte.)

If phone banking isn’t for you, don’t give up

It’s okay to realize that you’re just not up to phone banking. “If you have social anxiety, don’t just pull yourself up by the bootstraps and volunteer an hour a week of phone banking, which is going to leave you with crippling anxiety,” says Douglas, the psychologist. “You can find the things that matter to you and you feel like you can give back and can make you feel good—you can lay your head in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah, I did my time.’” 

Those things might be text banking, which is less effective than phone banking but can reach many more people in a short time. Or letter writing or post carding, which can bring out the writer or the crafter in you. Do it with friends, social distanced or over Zoom, with drinks and a movie on. “Volunteering is about being creative, it’s about doing what you enjoy doing for a great cause,” Deena Loftin says. That can mean getting wine-drunk with friends and putting too much glitter on a postcard to a nice person in Texas.

Donate to campaigns you like

Even small dollar donations can make a huge difference—and donating counts as a form of volunteering, Deena Loftin points out. “You’ve got to go to the polls with the issues that you care most, about the issues that matter most to your family, and the problems that need to be fixed in your community.” The same is true for donations—putting money towards a candidate you care about is putting money towards your values. Even though every single text and email from a candidate sounds like it was written by your neediest ex or a dog who gained the power of speech. (“Jenny, please? I need this.”)

Help your friends and family vote

Celebrities don’t tend to mention this in their Get Out The Vote PSAs, but the logistics of voting can sometimes be purposefully confusing. It can be hugely impactful to urge on the people around you who would vote for your candidate if they voted to do it. 

Take it upon yourself to remind your broke cousin that, for example, Joe Biden wants to introduce loan forgiveness, and to tell your grandma whose meds are never handled right to vote for the Senate candidate who plans to expand Medicare For All. Tell your former-crush who no longer holds power over you that his polling place is the fire station two streets down from his house, and it’s not weird that you know that, it’s fine. You have a real likelihood of persuading people in your life to vote, and to vote their values.

Find a political home

A major reason people might not see themselves as political volunteers is because we think all political things will be loud, angry, and combative. Luckily, most political volunteering isn’t like that. “The goal of politics is to be part of a community of people where people rely on each other to get things done,” Hersh says. Walking into a neighborhood meeting of grassroots organizers (or logging onto the Zoom gathering), you’re not going to see pundits screaming at each other like on the news, he adds. “These people care about each other and have a mission, and their mission is to increase the power of their values. It’s just so positive.”

A great first step, Loftin says, is to “find your social justice home.” Look for a group where you can set down your anxieties in the safety of people who are working to make the world a better place. “People think that getting involved in politics is an individual activity,” she says. “It’s not—politics is all about people.”

Jenny Singer is a staff writer for Glamour. You can follow her on Twitter.                                    

Donald Trump Tweets ‘Don’t Be Afraid of COVID,’ Sparking Understandable Outrage

Just three days after being admitted to Walter Reed Hospital with COVID-19, President Donald Trump is basically telling folks, “There’s nothing to see here.”

This is hardly a surprise. After months of downplaying the global pandemic that’s claimed over 200,000 lives, many were already wary of how the president would respond to his own coronavirus diagnosis, which was made public on Thursday, October 1. 

Sure enough, following a bizarre, risky photo-op in an SUV on Sunday, October 4, Trump began firing off a series of alarming tweets. Starting at 6:30 a.m. ET on October 5, Trump posted 23 tweets, mostly non-sequiturs in all caps. 

Around 2:30 p.m. ET, Trump shared that he would be discharged from Walter Reed by Monday evening (October 5). “Feeling really good! Don’t be afraid of Covid,” Trump tweeted. “Don’t let it dominate your life. We have developed, under the Trump Administration, some really great drugs & knowledge. I feel better than I did 20 years ago!”

This is dangerous messaging for many reasons. Coronavirus is nothing to joke about. Here are just a few facts: 

  • Over 208,000 Americans have died of COVID-19.

  • There are 7.3 million U.S. cases.

  • A large number of White House officials and close advisors to the president, along with three Republican senators and three reporters, have been diagnosed with COVID-19 since Trump’s Supreme Court nomination ceremony, which is believed to have been a “superspreader event.” Here’s a running list. This includes White House Press Secretary Kayleigh McEnany, who’s hosted multiple press conferences without wearing a mask since Trump tested positive. Two of McEnany’s staffers have also tested positive, per CNN.

  • Donald Trump’s doctors confirmed that the president suffered high fevers and his oxygen levels have fallen at least twice since contracting COVID-19.

People online pointed out all of this and more, with “DON’T BE AFRAID OF COVID” quickly trending on Twitter.

“Don’t be afraid of covid? Tell that to the 210,000 families who have lost loved ones,” This Is Us actor Mandy Moore tweeted. “To the Black, Brown and Indigenous folks disproportionately affected. With tens of millions of jobs lost and the economy tanked. Many of us isolated for months. You’re the cruelest. #votehimout.”

“Don’t be afraid of Covid?! You’ve been under round-the-clock care by the best doctors using the best drugs,” actor Chris Evans wrote on Twitter. “Do you really think everyone has access to that?! Sadly, I’m sure you’re aware of that disparity, you just don’t care. This is reckless to a shocking degree, even for you.”

Even more concerning? When asked if we should be concerned about COVID-19 by reporters, Trump’s physician, Dr. Sean Conley, replied, “I’m not going to get into what the president says.”

We are truly living in a Black Mirror episode.

18 Best Silk Scarves for Women to Shop Now

Between claw clips and chunky chains, it’s been a good year for nostalgia-inspired trends. But one throwback accessory that’s flown under the radar? The best silk scarves for women. This year, silk scarves have had a quiet Renaissance among the cool girls on Instagram—but perhaps the reason these scarves aren’t “everywhere” is because there isn’t a singular way to wear one. A silk scarf is a timeless wardrobe addition that can be styled in a myriad of ways, and if you want to make this accessory your own, there’s a seemingly endless variety of prints, sizes, and price points to choose from. 

Since we first spotted the trend on Instagram, we naturally turned one of the platform’s buzzy fashion brands, lescarf, to find out why this accessory is more popular than ever. “A silk scarf adds the final touch and makes you look fabulous, whether it’s for a gala or a walk in the park,” Karin Bylund and Natalie Karlsson, co-founders of lescarf tell Glamour. Some of their favorite ways to wear the accessory: a hair tie or headscarf, draped off the handle of a handbag, or around the neck. “You barely notice it wearing it, but it truly completes the look,” they explain. 

From bandanas and bandeaus to turbans and hair ties, the sartorial potential of a silk scarf knows no bounds—not to mention that for natural hairstyles, silk head wraps and bonnets are also an essential part of one’s hair care routine. Check out four popular ways to wear the accessory now, and shop 18 of the best silk scarves for women below. 

Silk bandanas and neckerchiefs

The simplest way to embrace the silk scarf trend is by tying it around your neck like a bandana or neckerchief. Often cut as a square, these styles will look good with virtually anything in your closet (think a cotton T-shirt, trench coat, crewneck) and can be knotted in multiple ways, like a necktie, shoulder-duster, or bandeau top.

Lescarf No. 1 Striped Silk-Twill Scarf

$100

Lescarf

Cafuné C-Lock Scarf

$104

Cafuné

Ganni Polka-Dot Silk-Twill Scarf

$70

The Outnet

& Other Stories Color Block Swirl Pleated Scarf

$49

& Other Stories

Giuliva Heritage Printed Silk-Twill Scarf

$120

Net-a-Porter

Giulia Leopard Print Scarf

$255

Giulia

Silk headscarves and hair ties

Tying a silk scarf in your hair—either as an accent to a ponytail or as a loose headscarf—is an effortless way to add intrigue to your look if you’re always on Zoom. The vibe is part Austrian milkmaid, part Jackie O. Just add sunglasses.

Zitkani Medium Silk Scarf

Lescarf No. 10

$130

Lescarf

Less Less Silk Hair Tie With Ribbon

$80

Less Less

Free People Dreamiest Scarf Pony

$18

Free People

Silk scarves for your handbag

If your handbag has been collecting dust in your closet for the last six months, a quick way to give it new life is by wrapping a skinny silk scarf or a square bandana around the handle. The long, skinny versions are ideal for creating thick bows that drape to one side of your bag, while the square styles are more suited for looping around the entire handle.

Madewell x Kule Silk Leopard Bandana

$25

Madewell

Clare V. Vive la Resistance Bandana

$55

Clare V.

Senreve City Scarf

$85

Senreve

Kate Spade Silk Skinny Scarf

$48

Nordstrom

Silk head wraps and bonnets 

Usually made of satin or silk, hair bonnets are designed to fit snugly around the head like a turban and protect natural hairstyles from snags and tangles that can happen from rubbing against a pillowcase during sleep. Whether you wear them inside or outside the house, they’re basically walking silk pillowcases that look good while protecting your hair.  

Cee Cee’s Closet NYC Soleil Raw Silk Headwrap

$75

Cee Cee’s Closet NYC

Grace Eleyae All Silk Turban

$77

Grace Eleyae

Silke London The Silk Hair Wrap

$65$52

Silke London

Slip Pure Silk Hair Wrap

$85

Nordstrom

Debra Messing Is Tweeting Like America Depends on It

When it comes to social media, do you ever feel like you just need to disconnect?

Yes. Sadly, I’m not good at it and I don’t do it nearly enough. At first, I was nonstop, because I was trying to answer to people who were telling me why Trump is not racist or why Hillary [Clinton] killed people, and it was part of a pizza conspiracy or something. And so I was answering every single one of those in a very respectful way, just sort of saying, “No, actually, if you read X, Y, and Z, you will see this is actually the truth, and that’s what I feel the way I do.”

It took a little while, but I realized that that was a waste of my time and my energy. So I stopped doing that, but I think that because it seems like every day something catastrophic happens in the news, something unthinkable happens, and I’m still trying to deal with the catastrophic thing that happened yesterday, it feels like I can’t stop because there are too many fires that are all raging at the same time.

When I’m able to step back, there’s no question I’m happier, there’s no question my body feels healthier. Social media, for the most part, makes me unhappier!

I was going to ask whether you’ve ever tweeted something that you really regret, but if it’s making you unhappier, my guess is yes, that there has been something of that nature.

Yes. I’m a very passionate, fiery person. There have been times where I just vomited up a response on Twitter and realized that it was ill-advised, and I apologized for it. The difficult thing obviously is when you make a mistake—and all of us make mistakes because we’re human—and then you apologize when people won’t let you apologize. That certainly has made me think twice before pushing the send button, because it is a responsibility being someone that people know.

Do you think, on Twitter, any Trump supporter has ever been convinced to not vote for Trump?

Well, yes. I can say yes because there was one specific post that really landed for me, and it was this man just saying, “I am a lifelong Republican and I voted for Trump and I have been a staunch supporter of his, but watching him in the last year, I cannot support him anymore. I’m shocked to say this, but I’m not going to vote for him, and I’m actively talking to people in my community about why they shouldn’t.” That gave me hope.

Do you ever watch Fox News just to see what the rest of the country is seeing?

No. I don’t. I mean, I’m on Twitter so much that I inevitably see videos of the news. But I don’t watch.

That seems like a healthy choice, especially given how much else is going on. How are you faring during this pandemic—emotionally, mentally, physically?

It has been incredibly challenging. It has been very up and down for me. I am currently in my apartment in New York City. I have been here since March. I definitely hit a wall from being inside for so long. I mean, at one point, I was like, “I feel like I’m in The Shining.” I’m in this apartment, it doesn’t have a balcony, it doesn’t have a roof; I am inside. It’s just been an extraordinarily stressful time, but I also am very aware and very grateful that I’m healthy, my family is healthy, and that I have a home that I’m not going to be evicted from.