Jewelry: Women Will Buy It For Themselves, Thank You Very Much

“I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it” aren’t just lines from Ariana Grande’s, “7 Rings.” For a growing number of women, they’re words to live by.

For far too long, jewelry has been considered a gift-only item. But new data suggests people are no longer waiting for a special occasion (or a man) to get the sparklers they’ve earmarked. Instead, they’re buying what they want, when they want it.

In a recent survey of millennial women with a household income of $75,000 or more, researchers found that 51% of participants purchase their own accessories, from rings to necklaces to bracelets.

It’s a shift that’s apparent to some in the business. Noura Sakkijha, co-founder and CEO of the direct-to-consumer line Mejuri, tells Glamour that consumers aren’t interested in waiting for a partner or loved one to think of gifting them that special something, not least because that outdated idea is still based on the notion that it’s a man who will purchase that item for a woman. “When we founded Mejuri, our goal was to change the narrative surrounding gifting and to place the purchasing power into the hands of women,” she explains. “Now, 75% of purchases [at Mejuri] are made by women, for themselves and for each other.”

To her point, just this week Mejuri launched its second engagement collection. “Before we developed the product, we saw that 62% of those who bought our first collection were women, so we reached out to them to learn more. Whether it was for their partner or to celebrate 30 as the new 21, women were buying the rings for all sorts of reasons—once again demonstrating that we don’t need to wait for anyone or any occasion to buy the damn diamond,” Sakkijha adds.

According to Quartzy, the uptick in these kinds of sales began in the 1980s as more women began working outside the home and earning income of their own. But the most noticeable increase has come in the past decade, with more women than ever wanting to recognize personal and professional milestones independent of their relationship status. Some, like one Glamour contributor, have even begun to invest in their own engagement rings.

Inspired to scoop up something just for you? Read on for the best pieces to treat yourself to, stat.

Chan Luu Cultured Freshwater Baroque Pearl Drop Earrings in 18K Gold-Plated Sterling Silver

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18k Gold Pavé Diamond Initial Pendant Necklace

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Yayoi Forest In Rainbows Ring

Catbird

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Reliquia Top That Earrings

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Gold Axiom Chain Necklace

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Taylor Swift Says Scooter Braun and Scott Borchetta Are Preventing Her From Performing Her Old Songs

Earlier this year, it was revealed that Taylor Swift’s entire music catalog (prior to her most recent album, Lover) was sold—and it caused some serious drama in the music industry. A quick summary: Swift’s former label—Big Machine Records, which was founded by Scott Borchetta—was acquired by Scooter Braun, who manages several high-profile artists including Justin Bieber and Ariana Grande. “This is my worst case scenario,” the singer wrote on Tumblr at the time. “This is what happens when you sign a deal at fifteen to someone for whom the term ‘loyalty’ is clearly just a contractual concept.”

“I learned about Scooter Braun’s purchase of my masters as it was announced to the world,” she continued. “All I could think about was the incessant, manipulative bullying I’ve received at his hands for years. Like when Kim Kardashian orchestrated an illegally recorded snippet of a phone call to be leaked and then Scooter got his two clients together to bully me online about it. Or when his client, Kanye West, organized a revenge porn music video which strips my body naked.” Naturally, Swift’s post led to a lot of conversations about artists’ rights and many in the music industry took sides.

Put simply, Swift no longer owns the masters to her first six studio albums and cannot control how or when they are used. Now, she claims Borchetta and Braun are not allowing her to perform her own music at the AMAs. She took to social media to tell her side of the story, writing, “Don’t know what else to do.”

“Guys—It’s been announced recently that the American Music Awards will be honoring me with the Artist of the Decade Award at this year’s ceremony,” she posted on Instagram and Twitter. “I’ve been planning to perform a medley of my hits throughout the decade on the show. Scott Borchetta and Scooter Braun have now said that I’m not allowed to perform my old songs on television because they claim that would be re-recording my music before I’m allowed to next year.”

Swift adds that Netflix is working on a documentary about her life, and the rights to her music have not been cleared for use. “I feel very strongly that sharing what is happening to me could change the awareness level for other artists and potentially help them avoid a similar fate,” she said. “The message being sent to me is very clear. Basically, be a good little girl and shut up. Or you’ll be punished. This is WRONG. Neither of these men had a hand in the writing of those songs. They did nothing to create the relationship I have with my fans. So this is where I’m asking for your help.”

She then asks for fans and other artists to let Braun and Borchetta know how they feel about the matter. “I’m hoping that maybe they can talk some sense into the men who are exercising tyrannical control over someone who just wants to play the music she wrote,” she continues. “I just want to be able to perform MY OWN music. That’s it. I’ve tried to work this out privately through my team but have not been able to resolve anything. Right now my performance at the AMA’s, the Netflix documentary and any other recorded events I am planning to play until November of 2020 are a question mark.”

A number of celebrities including Selena Gomez, Gigi Hadid, and Halsey have already voiced their support for Swift. Gomez describes the situation as being about “greed, manipulation, and power.” Adds Hadid, “Scott and Scooter, you know what the right thing to do is. Taylor and her fans deserve to celebrate the music!!”

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Braun and Borchetta have yet to respond publicly—but it sounds like this situation is far from over.

Dollface Creator Jordan Weiss: ‘I’m More Worried About Finding a Maid-of-Honor Than a Husband’

She was first. Feeling good about yourself can always be hard, but it’s especially hard at 18, and my friend and I both used romantic relationships as a way to deal with our self-esteem issues. She started dating a senior who lived a couple miles off campus, and suddenly the nights spent in our dorm became fewer and farther between. By the middle of freshman year, we had basically combined all our clothes into one communal closet for the two of us. But as she started moving more and more of her stuff into his place, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer in possession of any pants.

It’s not that I wasn’t happy for her, but as their relationship progressed, I started to feel parts of my friend’s personality disappear. She was beginning to talk like him, act like him, party like him, and I was worried about her. When we spoke, I sounded less like a best friend and more like a nagging mother. By the end of our sophomore year our friendship had become strained and distant, and then I found out she was transferring—moving back across the country to be closer to home. We’d been growing apart for a while, but now I was officially alone.

Then it was my turn. After my friend left, I became withdrawn from the other women I knew in class. I resented our sorority and started feeling like the whole concept of sisterhood was tinged with insincerity. After the worst heartbreak of my life, I wasn’t ready to put myself out there. Instead, I decided I would find a boyfriend. I retreated into a romantic relationship and lost myself. My confidence was at an all-time low, and becoming an ancillary character in a man’s life felt easier than trying to star in my own for a while. I’m a person who doesn’t really like sports, but my ex was a fanatic. To give you an idea of how bad it got, by the end of this relationship I had my own fantasy football team. Yeah…I know.

By graduation, that relationship was over. I was 22, I had a good job, an apartment in LA, and I was dating someone new, but something in my life still felt missing. The summer after college, my new boyfriend brought me with him to his buddy’s wedding. As I sat in the ceremony, everyone around me watching bride and groom, there was one person I couldn’t take my eyes off. When the bride reached the altar, she turned to her maid-of-honor to hand off the bouquet, and I saw the girls exchange a quick hand squeeze. I recognized it instantly—the way one small movement in the language of best friends was a whole conversation.

When we got home from the wedding, I knew it was time to start putting myself out there with girlfriends again. At first, it felt like I’d been out of the game so long I forgot what I was doing. I was like your divorced aunt trying to reenter the dating world and asking for your help making a Bumble. The rituals of girls’ nights out and Sunday brunch I remembered from early college felt foreign and daunting, but I forced myself to make plans. I introduced myself to girls at work and at parties. I went on group hikes, and joined a Bachelor watch party. I even went to a women’s networking event where everyone potted their own mini succulent and I pretended I didn’t think it was stupid the entire time.

It didn’t always come naturally, but I was showing up and making the effort. And during this time, I was writing, and looking to my own life for inspiration. I had a weird idea one day while picturing myself on this search for female friendship, involving a bus driven by a wise old woman with a cat head. Four years ago almost to the day, the beginnings of what would become Dollface started to form.

Kat Dennings and Esther Povitsky in a scene from Hulu’s Dollface.

Ali Goldstein/Hulu

Today I’m 26, and I still don’t know who my maid-of-honor is going to be. Let’s be honest, I don’t know if I’m ever getting married. But I do know this—because I made the effort, I’ve never had better girlfriends than I do now, and my life has never been as happy and hectic and fulfilled as it is because of them.

And as far my involvement with Dollface, writing a show about a girl reconnecting with her friends has had real-life benefits. Even though we don’t get to see each other as much as we’d like, and I don’t know what role we’ll play in each other’s future weddings, the day I found out Dollface was green-lit as a series at Hulu, it was the perfect excuse to pick up the phone and give my best friend from college a call.

Jordan Weiss is the creator and executive producer of Dollface. The series premieres on Hulu on November 15.

The Free People Sale Is Here for 24-Hours—and Everything Is Discounted

Ah, Free People. Part retailer, part music festival—with boho chic dresses, tie-dye tops, and ripped jeans straight out of your Woodstock dreams. For celebrities like Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez, it’s the preferred off-duty wardrobe (or, in Selena’s case, music video costume) of choice—and now it can all be yours.

Free People is running a site-wide flash sale for 24 hours (12 a.m. – 11:59 p.m. on November 15), with everything you could possibly want on markdown. (Including those Veja sneakers that are a Meghan Markle favorite). Plus, it’s offering free shipping on all orders over $100 and you can make in-store returns, which is a perk if you live near a Free People boutique.

Loyal customers know that a site-wide Free People sale is rare—in the past, they’ve only run their flash sale for four hours—so this is big news. You can get 20% off your purchase of $250-$499 and 25% off when you spend $500 or more. We’d recommend picking up a few items while things are discounted, especially if you need to stock up on cozy sweaters and leggings for the winter, stocking stuffers for your friend’s holiday party, or a full-on sequin midi for your cousin’s wedding.

Good sales can be overwhelming, especially when they’re associated with the word flash. So to help you find the pieces worth your money, we’ve picked the 23 best Free People sale items (think dresses, tops, accessories, boots, and beauty products) to add to cart now.

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Cozy Gifts for the Biggest Homebody You Know

Cozy is a mood—and that mood can look like cashmere shorts, a hand-knit weighted blanket, a subscription to the stream all the best movies on Disney+, or a sheepskin rug to warm up icy cold floors.

But don’t keep the cozy to yourself during the giving (read: peak hibernation) season. Odds are, someone on your holiday gift list is an even bigger homebody than you. And since you already know where to find them this winter—most likely at home, enjoying their favorite romantic comedy over freshly canceled plans—give them the best cozy gifts 2019 has to offer.

Among our toastiest picks is a sweater dress inspired by Rihanna’s favorite outfits, a silk travel set to take the comfy on-the-go, and a plush dog bed for the actual queen of nesting, your pup. Shop the best cozy gifts for the friend you never see (but aren’t mad about it), here.

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Hannah Brown Had to Sit Down on the CMAs Red Carpet Because Her Dress Was ‘So Heavy’

Hannah Brown made an appearance at the CMA Awards on Wednesday, November 13, where she presented the trophy to Old Dominion for Vocal Group of the Year. But before she took her place onstage, the former Bachelorette was out on the red carpet, showing off a stunning Atelier Zuhra white ball gown that was so heavy and full, she plopped down on the ground at one point to rest.

After the ceremony, Brown took to Instagram and uploaded a few different shots to “recap some of the things that happened” at the event. In one of the videos she shares, “Alright, I’m on my way to the CMA Awards. I’ve got my dress all right here. It’s about 50 pounds.” Later, she says, “I’m actually sitting down on the red carpet because this dress is so heavy. But it’s beautiful.” She included a couple images that show her sitting down on the red carpet and using the fabric of her full skirt, which had a lengthy train, as a makeshift seat. The move was peak Hannah Brown, and so relatable.

Hannah Brown sits on the red carpet at the CMA Awards.

Instagram

Earlier this year, the People’s Choice Awards voted Brown the best “competition contestant,” beating out her former suitor Tyler Cameron. She made a sweet speech about her reality show experiences that demonstrate why she’s become some fans’ favorite bachelorette.

“This award means a lot to me because it just affirms that it’s okay to be vulnerable and put your heart out there, and that people receive and give back. And that’s everyone who has supported and loved me through this crazy and supportive year,” she said. “How is this happening to me? I was just a girl from Alabama. But thank you for allowing me to be that girl from Alabama and to shine my light. It’s awesome.”

Keep shining, Hannah!

Lizzo Had the Most Iconic Response to a Troll Who Tried to Body-Shame Her

One of Jimmy Kimmel’s most iconic segments on his late night talk show involves making celebrities read mean tweets. The responses have always been hysterical, but leave it to Lizzo to take things to the next level: The super candid singer/rapper/flautist appeared on the show this week and delivered a razor-sharp response to a social media user who tried to body-shame her.

The mean tweet read, “Bus passes and Happy Meals. Two things that I imagine #Lizzo has seen a lot of.” Lizzo took the tweet in stride, first laughing at it and then responding with, “Yeah, I’m a big bitch, and I ride a bus. A tour bus, motherfucker. Where’s yours?” A flawless clapback.

Lizzo is pretty much having the best year ever. She has two songs on Billboard‘s Hot 100 (one of which hit the number one spot); her tour is selling like crazy; and she has a devoted legion of fans. No way is she letting a dumb tweet like this bother her.

Earlier this year, the “Truth Hurts” singer talked to Glamour about why calling plus-size women “brave” is actually insulting. “When people look at my body and be like, ‘Oh my God, she’s so brave,’ it’s like, ‘No, I’m not,'” she said. “I’m just fine. I’m just me. I’m just sexy. If you saw Anne Hathaway in a bikini on a billboard, you wouldn’t call her brave. I just think there’s a double standard when it comes to women.”

Lizzo’s tweet read from this video is definitely the most memorable, but the segment also includes Billie Eilish, Green Day, Chance the Rapper, Monsta X, and Cardi B, who gets an honorable mention for her response to a user who said, “I just watched a muted performance of Cardi B, and that bitch just looks loud without any sound on.”

“How do I look loud? How do I look loud? I’m loud? I don’t even think I’m like loud. Suck my ass,” Cardi said in response. Mic drop.

Watch the full video of celebrities reading mean tweets for yourself, above.

16 Best Makeup Bags of 2019

Traveling is arguably one of the most exciting and enriching things in life, but if you ask pretty much anyone, they’ll agree packing is the exact opposite experience. No matter if you’re a light or heavy packer, plan in advance or wing it at the last minute, there are about a million other things we’d rather spend our time on. At least with clothing you can just toss things in a suitcase, but with beauty products there’s so much more to think about: TSA limitations, changing climates, packing skin care for in-flight and when you’re on the ground. But there is one thing that can make it all easier: a great makeup bag. The perfect one should check all the boxes: big enough to easily fit all your essentials yet small enough to stash in your bag, durable, and cute. It sounds like a lot, but trust us, they are out there.

Just ask the 16 women below, each of whom—from a celebrity esthetician to a reality TV star—have racked up hundreds of thousands frequent flier miles from how often they travel. Read on for the best makeup bags of all time, according to them, and get ready to kiss your plastic bags goodbye.

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PTSD After Sexual Assault: ‘I Had to Practice Saying I was Raped. Now I Have to Practice Saying I Have PTSD.’

Trigger warning: This post contains descriptions of sexual trauma.

I got a UTI two to three times a month when I was being repeatedly raped. I went to a doctor, and they asked if I was bathing enough, and then prescribed a preventative antibiotic to take before I had sex. Though my body was clearly rebelling against what was happening, no one listened to it—including me. The doctor didn’t ask if my sexually-active relationship was consensual or not, and I didn’t have the language to tell them otherwise.

In the years since, I’ve practiced saying the word “rape.” It happened to me more than once and by someone I know—details I haven’t quite worked out how to relay in one sentence. Again, saying I was raped at all took practice.

Now, years later, I’m physically far away from my abuser but my body still doesn’t feel safe, which often results in panic attacks during or after sex. Without warning, I can’t breathe, think, or override my physical reactions of crying and hyperventilation. My skin crawls until I wrap it up tight, usually in a sweatshirt or blanket. Sometimes my vision goes, or my ears ring. The worst of the episode can last anywhere from three to five minutes; the residual feelings of urgency and shame usually continue all night, often into the following day.

Sometimes I avoid sex for weeks or even months afterward. Other times I seek it out, subconsciously hoping, I’m sure, for a way to release the trauma my body still holds. I wear heavier clothes. The assaults are a constant, aching presence in the back of my mind, as if I’ve forgotten to lock my front door, turn off the oven, or set my alarm. I think about rape when I drink. Sometimes I drink too much because of it. When I’m feeling up to the challenge, I practice looking at my body in the mirror and naming each part—arm, leg, torso—as something that belongs to me, a technique some therapists recommend.

Three months ago, I sat in my therapist’s office recapping an almost idyllic Fourth of July weekend: A trip to upstate New York, farm-to-table meals, oh and a panic attack that left me sick and hyperventilating in the bathroom for an hour. “I think EMDR could really help you,” she said.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. In my case this looked like holding a buzzer in each hand, their alternating vibrations ping-ponging between my palms as my therapist prompted me to close my eyes and conjure certain memories. She asked me to notice how I felt—physically and emotionally—when remembering those moments.

The session lasted 90 minutes. Afterward, I was disoriented and raw. I couldn’t bring myself to do it again.

A few weeks later, I had lunch with a friend who told me she had PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, without so much as a flinch or a nervous blink. She too was in the midst of EMDR therapy—a treatment that’s shown promise for those living with PTSD. When I thought of the condition, I thought of veterans and violent crime survivors, people who’d had knives held to their throats, guns to their backs. People who certainly weren’t me.

Do I have PTSD? I asked my therapist in our next session. She pulled out her DSM-5, a manual which defines and classifies mental disorders, with the caveat that diagnosis is an inexact science; then she read off the criteria for PTSD. There are eight, five of which have between two and seven sub-criteria. I met each of the main criteria and all of the subs except for three.

In that moment, I realized I’ve had imposter syndrome about my own mental health; somehow the years I spent in a body that at any moment might betray me didn’t feel like enough evidence to warrant a serious diagnosis. In a twisted way, my panic attacks and struggling for intimacy with myself and partners for years, didn’t feel significant enough to qualify for PTSD. Why did I need the DSM-5 to tell me what my body had known all along?

The Comfiest Winter Boots for Women

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Winter boots for women can often be a challenge to style around: They can be clunky, heavy, and generally lack the cool factor of a crisp white sneaker or a sleek, easy-to-walk-in heel. But once that snow starts to hit and the temperature gets to freezing, idea of looking stylish kind of goes out the window. But! There are indeed ways to combine comfort and warmth with genuine style, as far as winter boots go. Check out the outfits below and note how each woman seamlessly incorporated winter boots into their looks, then shop some really cute pairs, all for under $50 .

Gustavo Caballero

Even in the iciest conditions, an oversized belted winter coat adds glamour to any outfit—even when rubbery winter boots are involved.

Jeremy Moeller

Flat winter ankle boots look extra cool with a skinny jean and a statement coat.

Christian Vierig

An over-the-knee boot goes a long way when the heel is low and walkable—and look surprisingly modern with trousers instead of jeans or tights for a change.

Christian Vierig

A classic sheepskin boot doesn’t have to be reserved for your most casual days. She pairs hers with a silk dress and furry coat.

Laurent Viteur

…But they also look flawless with a waxed jean and similarly cozy coat.

Arnaldo Magnani

Even Sarah Jessica Parker is a woman who loves a winter boot—and always looks stylish.

Christian Vierig

Any pair of warm over-the-knee boots works with blue jeans and a classic button-down.

Anna Webber

Style tip: Wear all black except for your winter boot.