There’s no shortage of porn on the Internet but it’s hard to find something you actually want to watch. On a lot of free sites, it often feels like you have to wade through video after video (and pop-up after pop-up) of people degrading, insulting, and violating women before you can find decent porn sites for women. Given what a task that is, it’s no wonder more men than women still watch porn. But this is changing, thanks to the rise of porn for women. Finding hot masturbation material should not come at the cost of feeling like an object (unless that is specifically what you’re looking for—and even then it can be done in a feminist way).
Much of the best porn for women isn’t free, but a lot of free porn isn’t produced ethically. Paying for porn is not only going to be safer for your computer, but it makes the entire industry more female-friendly for the performers and the viewers.
Here are some porn sites to check out if you’re looking for female empowerment, mutually respectful sex, and lots of content to help get you off:
Cindy Gallop created this site to show real sex among real people, not actors doing things that don’t represent how sex happens IRL. Couples submit videos of themselves having sex, which you can rent for $5, and half of the money will go to the stars themselves. “We are not porn—porn is performance (often an exceedingly delicious performance, but a performance nonetheless),” its website reads. “We are not ‘amateur’—a label that implies that the only people doing it right are the professionals and the rest of us are bumbling idiots. (Honey, please.)” We love that attitude. And these vids.
This award-winning queer porn site provides “real dyke porn, lesbians, femme on femme, boi, stud, genderqueer and trans-masculine performers, transwomen, transmen, queer men and women engaging in authentic queer sexuality, whether it is with safer sex, strap-on sex, cocksucking, kink and BDSM, gender play and fluidity, and always authentic orgasms.” You can become a member (which lets you stream all the videos) for $9.99 to $25 a month.
Erika Lust, a filmmaker who explained why porn can be feminist in this great TED Talk, gives us porn videos—made largely by female directors—that show all of the passion, “intimacy, love, and lust in sex,” where “the feminine viewpoint is vital, the aesthetic is a pleasure to all of the senses, and eroticism and innovation are celebrated.” She also accepts viewer “confessions,” which she turns into videos for her XConfessions series. You can watch Lust’s work for $16.66 to $34.95 a month.
Instead of your standard video format, this site features GIFs for quick, free consumption of “palpable desire, unbridled passion, and body-positive eroticism.” It also offers sex-toy reviews, a NSFW coloring book, and other resources from sex educator Elle Chase.
The “female-friendly” sections of mainstream porn sites are often just proof of how low our standards are. Anything where a woman feels a modicum of genuine pleasure tends to get categorized this way, even when the images overall are clearly geared toward straight men. But Dane Jones’ videos are some of the best options you’ll find under this category. They’re sensual, romantic, and focused on the women involved (though they tend to have shots that linger on men’s bodies as well). You can become a member for around $20 to $30 a month, but many videos are free.
The women-run Indie Porn Revolution—formerly known as nofauxxx.com—is committed to involving a diverse array of actors, showing safe sex (a rarity in porn), and casting frequently typecast people in non-stereotypical roles. Membership is $16.67 to $20 a month.
“Ms Naughty,” the filmmaker behind this production company, calls it, “a deliberate attempt to show all the good stuff that we love about sex—intimacy, laughter, connection, and real pleasure.” The videos feature the silly, awkward side of sex as well as the hot and steamy side. The camera zooms in on men just as much as it does on women, and the scenes focus on the buildup of sexual tension couples experience before sex, so you can feel the heat rising. To see beyond the previews, you have to pay $28.22 for the first month and then $12.24 a month after that.
Listen to enough fake porn moans and you can start to wonder what real people actually sound like when they’re masturbating or having sex. Fortunately, this site clears all that up. For no cost at all, you can listen to dozens of audio recordings of masturbation sessions. Some include dirty talk aimed at pleasing the listener, and others include entertaining attempts to count backward from 100 to 0.
The feminist sex-toy store Good Vibrations makes an effort to cater to women’s diverse desires, and its video collection is no exception. You can search specifically for feminist porn, women-directed films, and even sex-ed guides—something very needed in a world where way too many people learn everything they know from some pretty unrealistic porn. You can pay per minute or rent each video for $5 to $10.
At Bellesa, women can easily access sexual content that is true to how they see themselves—as subjects of pleasure, not objects of conquest. It’s not just about the porn, though. They’re a platform that is aimed at helping women fulfill their desires, share intimate and erotic stories, and even engage in a community with other like-minded women looking to freely express their sexuality on the internet. If you’re looking to try your hand at erotica stories, you can submit your content here, or you can simply browse through their women-friendly porn, whether you’re looking for something sensual, passionate or, dare we say, even a little rough.
This female-founded app is that is aimed at creating elevated feminist audio—think: Audible for erotica—that allows you to find a sexy story for whatever situation you’re in. You can search for audio porn to listen to alone in bed for a solo session; stories perfect to listen to before a date to get you into a flirty headspace; even erotic stories appropriate for listening to on your commute home to help you switch off from a day at the office. Dipsea’s stories feature a broad range of preferences, perspectives and interests—and they’re fun, safe, and full of enthusiastic content that prioritizes female pleasure. You can subscribe for $47.99 per year—which is less than $4 a month.
Sexuality is a spectrum, and the best porn should reflect that. SPIT’s queer porn collection nails it on two levels, showcasing different types of content—videos, photos, and erotica—which showcase a variety of experiences. Their content is developed ethically and the company is dedicated to creating consensual, equitable, and intersectional feminist spaces in the sex industry. That’s definitely a great reason to join for $19.65 per month.
Reddit isn’t always the friendliest place for women, but on the r/chickfixxx subreddit you can women posting their favorite female-friendly X-rated videos. You can even make requests—if your tastes are more specific or you’re looking for a particular kind of video, it may just be easier to ask your fellow sexperts here instead of browsing for hours. You are most definitely welcome.
For porn on the artistic side (yes, it’s a thing and it’s great), check out the photography, and short films on A Four Chambered Heart. Unsurprisingly, some of the stills are pretty enough to hang up on your walls — if you’re not too busy getting off to them, that is.
Images and audio are great but sometimes there’s nothing better than reading some good old fashioned erotica. Literotica isn’t your grandma’s scandalous paperback, however. The free resource provides some of the hottest erotic fiction and fantasy on the internet from a variety of authors and points of view. Their standards for stories are high so you can be sure that the stories featured here are, ahem, quite useful.